I thought I was the problem

(spoiler alert… I wasn’t. But I did have a few things to learn)

I’ve been sharing the DEAR JOHN album for three years now and I’ve had COUNTLESS people (mostly women, but other people aswell) tell me that this album has helped them change their lives too.

And, after three years of talking to thousands of women from all around the world on social media, email, and on tour, one thing has become glaringly obvious.

Sharing our stories is fucking powerful.

When I was swimming through the septic tank that was my relationship with “John” i thought it was just me. I thought I was the problem. I thought no one else could possibly understand.

When I started talking to counsellors and telling them my story, they shared information about patterns of abuse. I learnt that he was using textbook behaviour to maintain power over me and keep me in the relationship.

Then, when I started sharing my story through songs, on social media, and on the stage, countless women started saying thinks like “it’s like you’re telling my story” and “thankyou for putting into words what I haven’t been able to speak out loud”.

Then, women started sharing THEIR stories with ME.

The more I speak with women, the more I learn that we have all experienced VERY similar things.

We’re all swimming in the septic tank together, but it’s so dark and murky in there that we each think we’re alone.

But when we start to speak, when we share information, and when we listen to eachother and learn from eachother we shift the very ground we’re standing on.

I know these songs are powerful. I know that when I share on stage or social media that it can (and does) make a difference in someone’s life.

So, as a songwriter, an artist, and a feminist I’ve been asking myself for a long time - what else can I do? What else can I share?

That’s why I decided to create the DEAR JOHN Experience.

It’s the DEAR JOHN album (digital & downloadable - so you can listen anywhere, anytime) plus the real, raw stories that go with the songs - and the lessons that were hard won, but life changing.

I’ve also included ten resources that helped me IMMENSELY while I was healing, learning, rising up and making the album… and they help me keep rising now.

I know that these songs, stories and resources will do the same for you 💪