Áine Tyrrell

Episode 13: Remember Who You Are

Áine Tyrrell is a Pirate Queen.

Listening back to this episode, I felt so seen. Áine has a way of telling her own story that resonates so deeply with mine (and possibly yours) that I felt completely at home talking about some really challenging things.

Áine and I talked about following the call to release music that won’t necessarily make her popular but that speaks the truth, and the cultural purpose to why she makes music.

We talked about storytelling as tradition and the music industry not honouring the original song keepers of this country and why we need to work to hear the voices and stories of the people who have been silenced.

She shared so much of her personal experience of being sabotaged within the music industry - by people in the industry, and inside her own camp through domestic violence. She shared how unsafe it felt for her to play music, and how that took her away from sharing her art for many years.

There was something she said that resonated on a whole other level for me….. Áine talked about the ways she continued the patterns of domestic abuse within her relationships in the music industry. How those toxic dynamics kept showing up in her professional relationships until she was able to heal, set boundaries, and come back to who she is. That really hit home.

We talked about attracting the people that support your vision - instead of attracting people with the same trauma as you and trying to heal your own through trying to fix theirs - and the idea that how you show up is how people show up for you.

For me (and, as it turns out, for Áine) setting boundaries in both my personal life and professional life has been huge. We talked about some of the reasons why we let boundaries go and why it’s so important to not let ANYONE tell you who you are.

This was such a nourishing episode. Áine is one of the fiercest, most caring people I know - and she’s not afraid to stand up and tell the world who she is and what she gives a shit about. And, for that, I salute her.