UNTAMED

LET IT BURN was written after reading Glennon Doyle’s book “Untamed”. Specifically, chapter 14.

I couldn’t find somewhere to link to the full chapter, so here’s a summary from Studypool.

Glennon’s main idea in this chapter is that before our outer worlds can match up with our inner Knowing and imagination, the old version of life must be destroyed. After feeling, knowing, and imagining, one must allow their outer world or life change to fit the new inner self. Even if it hurts to lose some things, the result will be more than worth the pain.

The message of this chapter, and the way Glennon writes it, is reminiscent of the legendary phoenix. After weakness, pain, and hardship, the phoenix bursts into flames, and from the ashes rises a new bird, stronger and better than the last.

Honestly, I can’t recommend Untamed highly enough. I read the book when I was feeling completely broken, and it helped me understand why. What I learnt was that my pain wasn’t really about the break up at all. Obviously, I was grieving the loss of the relationship, and what I had wanted it to be, but I was also grieving the parts of myself that I’d lost, in service of the relationship.

That’s really what the song Let it Burn represents for me.

I realised I had given EVERYTHING - and it STILL didn’t work. And so I started wondering if, maybe, giving pieces of myself away in service of keeping that connection wasn’t the best thing for me to do. If the connection only remained as a result of my self-abandonment, then maybe the connection wasn’t one that I wanted or needed in my life.