These are my stories…. and i think they might be your stories too

Hi! I’m so happy you’re here

I don’t know much about you (yet) but here’s a few things about me that you might not yet know….

I’m from Australia 🦘

I eat / drink chocolate at least twice a day, I’m learning Portuguese, I have a cat named Dinky and I’ve recently figured out how to keep at least 85% of all my house and garden plants alive 🙌

I’m also a self managed & independent artist, songwriter, producer and performer. And, in April 2022, I released an album called DEAR JOHN.

I wrote the songs in 2020, after the dramatic ending of a toxic relationship that, honestly, completely broke me.

With seven years inside the relationship and a few years afterwards recovering, healing & rebuilding my life, I lost more than ten years of my life where this relationship was the centre of everything.

By the time I was out, I couldn’t remember who I was anymore.

And, while I was (literally) picking myself back up off the floor, I wrote & recorded a collection of songs that would, ultimately, change my life.

But the DEAR JOHN album actually has nothing to do with John.

I wrote it as a manifesto for how I wanted to live my life.

This album documents my process of healing, learning and rising up to become the woman I want to be.

Now, more than five years since that relationship ended, my life and internal world are unrecognisable from back then. I’ve transformed from a scared girl - thinking I had to prove myself and earn the love of someone who treated me terribly - into a strong woman so full of love for myself it sometimes makes me laugh out loud.

Yes, sometimes I feel anxious or sad. Sometimes I make mistakes.

I’m very human - not some enlightened being living a god-like life on top of a mountain in perfectly pressed linen.… and I’ll never pretend to be.

But I speak my truth.

And I share & receive love, joyfully, with incredible people who earn my trust over and over again.

I’ve rebuilt my life, and every day I live for myself and keep building my new dream life.

I’m free.

I thought I was the problem

(spoiler alert… I wasn’t. But I did have a few things to learn)

I’ve been sharing the DEAR JOHN album for three years now and I’ve had COUNTLESS people (mostly women, but other people aswell) tell me that this album has helped them change their lives too.

And, after three years of talking to thousands of women from all around the world on social media, email, and on tour, one thing has become glaringly obvious.

Sharing our stories is fucking powerful.

When I was swimming through the septic tank that was my relationship with “John” i thought it was just me. I thought I was the problem. I thought no one else could possibly understand.

When I started talking to counsellors and telling them my story, they shared information about patterns of abuse. I learnt that he was using textbook behaviour to maintain power over me and keep me in the relationship.

Then, when I started sharing my story through songs, on social media, and on the stage, countless women started saying thinks like “it’s like you’re telling my story” and “thankyou for putting into words what I haven’t been able to speak out loud”.

Then, women started sharing THEIR stories with ME.

The more I speak with women, the more I learn that we have all experienced VERY similar things.

We’re all swimming in the septic tank together, but it’s so dark and murky in there that we each think we’re alone.

But when we start to speak, when we share information, and when we listen to eachother and learn from eachother we shift the very ground we’re standing on.

I know these songs are powerful. I know that when I share on stage or social media that it can (and does) make a difference in someone’s life.

So, as a songwriter, an artist, and a feminist I’ve been asking myself for a long time - what else can I do? What else can I share?

That’s why I decided to create the DEAR JOHN Experience.

It’s the DEAR JOHN album (digital & downloadable - so you can listen anywhere, anytime) plus the real, raw stories that go with the songs - and the lessons that were hard won, but life changing.

I’ve also included ten resources that helped me IMMENSELY while I was healing, learning, rising up and making the album… and they help me keep rising now.

I know that these songs, stories and resources will do the same for you 💪

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In The DEAR JOHN Experience you Get

🎶 WAV & Mp3 downloads of my album DEAR JOHN so you can save it wherever you listen to music

🎧 a private streaming link to the DEAR JOHN album so you can stream online or offline

🔥 ten videos (also available as audio, so you can listen or watch), sharing the personal story & big lessons behind each song, and the life changing resources I used (and continue to use) to help me rise up

✏️ all the external resources in one easy to access, hyper-linked document, so you can binge and slay (Note: if you’ve come from Five Days of Fire, there’s a few double ups in the resources. That’s because I share different viewpoints on them, more within the context of the song… so you basically just get more in depth info on top of what I’ve already shared 🙌)

🎥 three official music videos from the DEAR JOHN album so you can watch online or offline (and learn the dance moves 💅)

🎹 three bonus piano tracks (and their live-in-studio videos) of reimagined songs from the DEAR JOHN album

🎙️ a never-heard-before (and not available publicly) live recording from my 2024 Cyclone tour. Recorded at Smith’s Alternative, when I was literally losing my voice. I know, it sounds like it’s going to terrible but it’s actually AMAZING. I had to sing alternate melodies to suit my fragile voice and it gives the songs a whole new meaning and feel. It’s beautiful 💫 Includes seven songs (performed with Emma Dean on piano), stories and so many warm fuzzy feelings you’ll feel like you’re there at the gig with 100 of your besties

💪 a two week email series that goes even deeper into the personal stories and potent lessons of the album

🤫 secret bonus songs via email

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Making DEAR JOHN was the most terrifying thing I’ve ever done

But, it was also the most empowering and rewarding thing I’ve ever done.

I co-produced it with one of my best friends, during a global pandemic, while recovering from the biggest trauma I’ve ever experienced.

I wrote every single word that you hear me sing.

Kent Eastwood (my co-producer) and I wrote every single note that you hear played on this album. We wrote the bass lines, the string arrangements, the drum beats, the choir parts, the piano parts, the guitar riffs…. EVERYTHING. I even wrote a (really fucking great) trumpet part, playing my now infamous “mouth trumpet” 🤣 🎺 Then we took the entire album blueprint into the studio and had incredible musicians play the music we’d written for them.

I had such a clear vision for what I wanted this album to be and, I can honestly say, after three months of solid work (and lots of cups of tea), we 100% made that vision come to life.

And, honestly, while I knew I was making it for myself, I felt very clear that I was also making it for a woman I might never meet.

But I never ever thought that, three years on, I’d have SO MANY women telling me that that it felt like I’d made it for them ❤️

(in one of my favourite places in the world… the producers chair 👇 🎶)

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This isn’t about me anymore

A little while ago I publicly declared that I was finished talking about John.

But it turns out I’m not.

Because even though I don’t have to live with him anymore, there are millions of women all around the world living with John’s, or still recovering from living with John’s - and it has to stop.

So I’m on a mission for one million women to hear the DEAR JOHN album and these powerful song stories.

I’m not joking.

That’s why I created the DEAR JOHN Experience.

Making the DEAR JOHN album was the most personal and important thing I’ve ever done for myself.

But sharing it with the world isn’t about me anymore.

I’m sharing it because I know - after talking to thousands of women in my DM’s, emails, and at shows, that these songs and stories are fucking powerful catalysts for change.

I didn’t create this because I have a burning desire to tell you all my deepest darkest secrets (although I will 🔮) - but because, as Janet Mock says,

“telling our stories, first to ourselves and then to one another and the world, is a revolutionary act”

When we share our stories, we give others the courage to do the same.

Sometimes we give others the courage to make a change.

Sometimes we inspire someone to keep on going.

Sometimes we make someone think deeply about their one precious life.

And, sometimes, we simply remind someone that they are not alone.

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Here’s a little taster of the song Stories

(but I go sooooo much deeper inside the DEAR JOHN Experience)

💰 RICH GIRL - about all the unhelpful things our minds (and other people) tell us.. this song is me saying “Nope. I’m not buying into that anymore”

💥 DEAR JOHN - this started out as an actual letter I wrote to “John”, calling out all the things he did, and placing the responsibility of his actions back on him

❤️ WHOLE - all about reclaiming my power as a woman 💪

🐓 CHICKEN WINGS - i wrote this (while I was still with “John”) when I was feeling really confused and really low. I was looking for something / someone / anything to help me walk away

🔥 LET IT BURN - this song was inspired by a chapter in Glennon Doyle’s book “Untamed”... Sometimes, when things aren’t working for us anymore, we have to let them burn

🌳 GROWING TALL - this song is about all (literally ALL) my ex-boyfriends telling me I couldn’t be who I wanted to be / do what I wanted to. Fuck that 🙅‍♀️

⚡️ RUN - this song is about listening to that quiet (or screaming) voice inside of you that says “RUN”

💪 SOMETHING MORE - about learning to love all of myself, expressing myself fully, and demanding what I and all other women deserve

🤫 STAND - this song is about standing up for who you are and standing tall in whatever place you find yourself. It’s about not hiding, and not giving up

🌈 RAINBOWS - this story is deeply personal and I don’t share it anywhere else. It’s about guilt, shame, instincts, freedom, stepping into your power and allowing the rainbow to emerge from the storm

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The “Cup of Tea” Guarantee

I believe in these songs and stories so much that, if you don’t absolutely love the DEAR JOHN Experience, I’ll very happily give you your money back 😊

Just send me an email, tell me that it’s not for you, and I’ll happily refund you the full amount that you paid.

Seriously. I won’t even be offended! You’re taking a chance on me, and the risk shouldn’t be on you. If it’s not your cup of tea, no worries. It’s my 100% money back guarantee 🫖

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